I also answer the phone with Hello, this is Noel, which helps some people, but in about half the cases, they'll just pronounce my name back to me with the incorrect pronunciation. Also, since my e-mail address is katharine. Someone once said that your name is the first gift you are ever given and should be respected as such. I have a lot of friends and coworkers named Jennifer and 90% of them call themselves Jen, so I end up calling them all Jen because I can never remember which one prefers Jennifer. And it happens at parties and events as much as at work.
If your name is a challenge to pronounce, or if the person simply can't hear you well enough to understand it, you may need to repeat yourself a few times during your introduction. Part of me wants to politely correct them. Ultimately, though, some people cannot handle that many vowels, I guess, and cannot pronounce it correctly. Most everyone really wants to say my name correctly and they are generally glad when I correct them. Cuz even the names I use then are dirty! I actually think this is the best way to handle it.
There is a gigantic difference between thinking something and saying it. I think only a tiny handful of people in my life get it wrong after that. I get it every now and again in a client e-mail when someone thinks my name is Lisa. I despise being compared to ex girlfriend especially which explains why I had trouble with guys that I've dated in the past who remained friends with their ex girlfriends. So I'm sending her a scanned copy of the winning ticket! She didn't stop talking long enough for me to make one.
My name is not as weird as most people think. So I emailed him back and referred to him as Den. Another peave is that I was divorced 16 years ago and reverted to my maiden name at that time. I was calling a guy by his last name, and no one said anything about it for a few weeks. I'd buy a small cheap pack of paper 'Hello, My name is' stickers and wear one. Write them down, use some sort of memory-aiding device in your head etc.
I am often called by the name of the only other Hispanic girl in the office. That isn't the worst thing, he could be calling out her name while he's with her instead. The incorrect name often came from the same social group, the researchers found. I think that really depends on how well you are supposed to know someone. That they are see … ing in you. My boss got my first name wrong at the interview, and still kept getting my name wrong after the first month of work. People corrected me all the time.
I think this is totally normal. I agree with your assertion that name calling in arguments is counter productive, rude and generally unnecessary. It really depends if I would get angry or not with my bf if he said some other girls name. Name calling is direct and intentionally confrontational. I am forever called the wrong name. One of the partners constantly called me Mee-gan and was constantly correctly.
I was just about to post a comment when I saw yours! Even people who have known me for ages occasionally call me any V name but mine. Mostly I avoided addressing her by name, but when it was inevitable, I called her Barbara. Bottom line: Everyone should be careful to call people what they want to be called. It gets the job done simply and quickly. That is funny as I am the complete opposite.
My full name is Ananda, and most people say Amanda. I've just come to accept that not everyone will get it right. I spent the last of it, ohhh about 5 months ago. If the email from Adam McCarter with Adam McCarter in the signature line isn't enough to tip him off, what makes you think that your idea will? My name is Alexandra but all my life I have been called Allee. It is much worse etiquette to let the mistake go on and on and for that person to find out later, and possibly from someone else, that they have been calling you by the wrong name. He seems to stop caring but I care since I want to work there long term.
Never in a million years would they have expected there to be any confusion that my name would be Dasha. My name is Diana and I can 100% relate to this! But the incorrect names aren't chosen at random. People are more polite, they call you Sir, Mr. If people want to be a part of civilized society, under no circumstances should they use these words or any other, or any variation thereof, really to describe other people. Say your name is Elizabeth and you strongly prefer Liz, but coworkers keep calling you Elizabeth anyway.