In a family, after fights and disagreements, there is bound to be regretted things that have been said, and wounded feelings all around. We feel that it is alright to be our true self with the people we know of. I remembered it being scary because it was my first time telling a boy how I felt about him. Oh and yeah animals are also dicks sometimes. Perhaps this is because by then they are old enough to understand by experience that there is something wrong and also that it is not too late to redeem their pain and restore relationships and maximize their purpose.
I have been hurt by and had hurt close ones, the ones I love the most. Everyone wants to feel loved, needed, and important. Both loved you, only the expectations were different. Love is a profound word to some. The lover wants to be loved in return. I would like to suggest that emptiness, loneliness, is what makes us to love others and expect them to love us back.
When it was time to step back a little, you were suffocating this person with Love. John 20:23 says that we have to release the sins of others if we are going to be released. Spending your time, energy, and money to make someone else uncomfortable is just plain sadistic, as well as a waste of the most valuable thing you have-the precious minutes of your life. Perhaps the first lesson was not hurtful enough for me to learn much from it. But it is the beginning of doing our best to understand the people we love, as well as taking responsibility for our own feelings. I had lost a couple of treasured friends because of this behavior of mine. I sit in a silence and take all their hate, but to my confidants, I yell with irate.
This type of relationship falls into a downward spiral and is toxic. Which leads on to the next point. Someone who repeatedly behaves in a way that is toxic to the relationship is struggling with internal battles. It works the other way as well. This often means you might be taking out your resentment at a parent on someone else without realising it.
Naturally in such circumstances, the lover may unwillingly hurt the beloved. Do you feel remorse for hurtful behavior? Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt. It is the imagined future that is now broken that hurts. The people we care the most are the people we hurt the most. Give yourself the gift of - you will only feel better for it.
All u ppl that say uve been hurt… take it as a lesson to appreciate that special sumone that will love u the way u love them…. We can hide from ourselves, from our therapists, from our bodies, from our spiritual teachers and from our friends, but we cannot hide from the one we love and who loves us. From this perspective, we hurt the one we love so that we can learn to love ourselves and others more unconditionally, more deeply, and more completely. These patterns are maladaptive and harmful to both partners involved. Hurt people often attempt to medicate themselves with excessive entertainment, drugs, alcohol, pornography, sexual relationships, or hobbies as a way to forget their pain and run from reality Until the church learns to deal with and emphasize the emotional life and health of the believer, the church will be filled with half-Christians who pray and read the Bible but find no victory because they do not face the woundedness in their souls. These expectations when fulfilled is an awesome experience. The more you expect the more hurt you will inflict and receive.
If there are parts of you you hold back, if you keep secrets, or if you find that the longer you are in a relationship the more you look for ways to sabotage, then you might want to read our popular article on 4. When someone wants to distract herself from her own problems, she will latch on to someone else. If this is a pattern for you, always needing more attention from your partners and friends, it can also be time to question how you are not meeting your own needs in life and if you are relying too much on others for your happiness and sense of self. I firmly believe, that's the best way to heal yourself. If they feel you should spend more time together but never asked for it, then claim you hurt them by taking on a new work contract, the question becomes, why did they not say so? Says I need to figure out if I want her or want to live the single life I had. She wants to feel superior to Walter in any way that she can, which she does by questioning his intelligence.
In the end, you will regret the pain you have caused and you may well be a lot lonelier for your efforts. After much thought, I found the answer to my question — why do we fall in love with the ones who tend to hurt us the most? These understandings can be put into a mantric form and be repeated to oneself whenever such a situation arises where you notice yourself from having these bad choice inducing emotions and try to stop yourself. We fought a lot when we saw each other, we could never get along and we never hesitated to get the other into trouble. When being overwhelmed by the feeling of helplessness, there is little that can be done other than trying to make another person feel as horrible as possible. For example, a large percentage of those who have been sexually abused become the abusers of others; those who suffered under an alcoholic parent often themselves cause their future family to suffer because of their drunken stupors. There are many cases in which we unintentionally hurt our beloved as a result of external circumstances that are beyond our control.