The contract is still in forca and he still has my back. I barely ever wore my ring let alone my diamond and now that I have a job where I can wear my jewelry and not have to remove it I wear my rings all the time placing his along with mine on the same ring finger. We were wonderful HelpMates through this journey! I actually came across this thread when i was researching where I could have a hole drilled through my husbands ring to run the necklace chain through it. I chose to get a new ring that symbolized our relationship and because I knew that one day, my ring would be something special to pass down to my daughter. Years later, when her second husband died, she consciously decided to wear her band permanently. My husband passed away on July 8th, 2014 he was 58 years old.
I do not intend to take it off as my hand looks bare without them. February 6, 2017 I lost my husband of 47 years to cancer just over 5 months ago. I stopped wearing my engagement ring immediately after my husband died. Our rings were remade around our 28th aniversary. I too, met a widower who's wife died around the same time mine did and he also hung on to everything and talked about her constantly. I just can't imagine removing our rings. I wore both my 25th anniversary and wedding band for one year.
I think I felt guilty because he only bought the new ones to please me. I suppose your friend is much younger and will return to single life and will eventually transition to not wearing the rings as they are. We will not know how people feels until you are in that position. It is special, just like our marriage was. Ever now and then I flick my finger next to my ring finger and notice its gone,but its all part of the process. I had to cut it off my finger. Anonymous I wore my wedding and anniversary ring for 4 mths.
Even through the sad times when he was very ill. My wife died suddenly 4 weeks ago. Neither one of us could get the ring over his knuckle, so he still has it on. What is the ring all about and what is its significance? Despite my translation choice, I in no way mean to imply that grief and despair is evil, rather it is a healthy part of the healing process. The rings symbolize so much and it is still hard for me to move my ring.
I cry each time I think I should do that. It still amazes me that her fingers were so small that her ring fits inside of mine with room to spare. I do still wear the eternity ring my last husband gave me. It works for me, but that is something only you can and will decide when the time is right for you. Dead is not a word I use to describe him.
Neither my husband or I wore our wedding bands in recent years size and work issues. If at sometime in the coming years I am blessed with a new bride, that diamond will not be for her, but for my daughters. I've done everything I've needed to do. Creating a new piece of jewelry, just like renovating parts of the house, may be the way to go. After a lot of failed relationships we found each other and our children all loved each other. I am still wearing my rings for time being but will be taking them off soon as I am planning a tattoo.
John wore a ring that we bought together, engraved with our initials and the date of our marriage. The other ring has 3 small blue saphire stones. I was feeling people would think I was crazy still wearing my wedding ring. It never occurred to me to let the ring go with him, since it was the one tangible piece of him left to me. He still feels like my husband; I still feel married to him.
I had gained weight and they no longer fit. What I did however, was have my wedding band and my husband's, soldered together like two olympic rings. They make me feel physically connected to him. We have to do what feel right for us, as we are all unique in our love and our feelings. When I felt ready to take it off I did and it is in the little box the engagement ring came in sitting next to his urn in my bedroom. I removed them briefly when I was involved in a serious relationship. So at first, I decided to take my wedding ring off and save it for one of my daughter's if the want it the other can have their dads.