I had such a terrible time with fatigue during my first trimester. I give her time out every weekend where I look after the kids and she goes out alone, but she will still come home and find something to get annoyed with. Those with severe marriage issues or who have experienced abuse, please seek one-on-one, trusted counsel medical, legal, and spiritual as appropriate. I am a first time mum and luckily a university student on holidays at the moment so have plenty of time to rest. She has plenty of time to herself shopping etc while i look after our daughter - but apparently this isn't enough.
I was a career woman back home very busy but enjoying life and then I came here. Clearly her feelings for you are not dead and if you make the right changes to your behavior and attitudes right now, you can re-spark the respect and attraction in her and make her fall even more in love with you than before. Which means even your most innocuous comments can come across to him as criticism. You also didn't mention how old the youngest is. I even had a bosses son sexual assault me. He was very short with her when he got home.
Homeschooling doesn't always have the same level of accountability. My family hates me and has cut me off. Try this promise yourself you will say hi to 1 person and start a conversation. It almost seems like I should have a right to be grumpy on those days. I know I'm very depressed, because in addition to anger, I also experience a lot of sadness. I did not feel this tired the first time around! Constantly waking up to use the bathroom at night, so not great sleep. Then, after I finally sought help, relief came fast.
Like all of life's greatest adventures, homeschooling, for us, has been filled with many unexpected surprises. The doctor say that these will go away at the start of the 2nd trimester. But those were certainly the exceptions to the rule. You are in the same spot we were two years ago. The hate started in around April last year and I started taking this b-yaz birth control last January.
My thing is, I married my first husband way too young and found out the hard way he was an abusive drug addict. I have spent the last 40 years doing nothing but complimenting my husband. Anyone with advice let me know. I just want you to know that I am hurt. Also, loud noise irritates me, and and anything negative stressful, even about somebody else that I care about, also gives me upset stomach, to where I feel like throwing up, and kinda fainting feeling on top of blood rush to a head and heart pain. I used to put all my energy and intellect in pursing what I want, including hobbies.
I get mad at little things that my kids and husband do that didn't bother me at all in the past. Instead, notice something each day that he does well and let him know how much you appreciate it. I encourage you to give it a try and see how it changes your day! Thankfully my husband is loving and helping do shopping. I think you suspect, that you might want to consult a mental health worker and explore these issues further. I get irritated, angry on little things. You should always be honest with your wife about how you feel and if her grumpiness is affecting you, then you need to discuss this with her.
So thankful that I am not working right now because honestly, it would be a hazard to myself and coworkers! You are more than a mom, maid, taxi driver, wife, and cook! I have been bullied, lied to, and treated like crap for the past 8 years. Hi Ladies, I need some advice please my husband and I just found out we are pregnant I will be 8 weeks tomorrow. He is a professor, and I am a software engineer working for another professor. Some of them are annoyed that I am no longer conveniently available to attend every holiday or function…. The likelihood is that once your wife has shared her problem with you, she will stop taking it out on you.
This then i feel caused me to have to fight off negative perapectives others would impose of me off becuase i know me better than anyone and i am not one that cant say when i am wrong. And ask Him for wisdom to understand what your priorities should be at this time. You pretty much described me since I've quit the alcohol! This time it will be 36 and 37! But i get annoyed and angry really easily. I was alone for quite a few years doing it on my own. Also, with 2 young kids, how much sleep are you getting? You write that you did not always feel angry, edgy, and unfriendly, and I wonder if you can trace back to the time when your feelings and your behavior changed. I came across this forum by accident, and I was very glad to see that someone pinpointed the problem to loss of identity.
Have you found other good ways to cope with crabbiness? I am currently in my first trimester and really needed to read all your comments. That makes me a little scared. I am so unhappy that I have lost what does make me happy. Most days, I was a well-oiled machine. I thought about the huge strides my kids had each made in math and how my then fourth-grader mastered long multiplication and division.
And more specifically: Does she think I measure up? She doesnt have any real close friends to talk to and her family is interstate. Here are my thoughts, and I hope they resonate somewhere somehow and perhaps generate talk that extends beyond venting. Feeling bad and sometimes apologize. I'm new to this site, and its just so comforting and helpful to see that I'm not alone in the way I feel. I decided then that I probably need to go and seek some professional help. Menopause can be tough, I know, but take it from me, it will get better with time. I know it's like mind-reading with us guys sometimes to figure out what we like to do.