I often contemplate divorcing my husband so that I could seek happiness elsewhere, or at least companionship. Your in-laws have stayed too long, the baby is screaming, the cable is out, the game is on, and who knows what your firstborn is doing, wait, why is there water coming from underneath the bathroom door? I respect what my husband does but I have nothing but my pets and a dusty Ivy Leaguedegree. I believe in psychiatric care as well as counseling with whatever theory and techniques work for the individual and family in need. We love each other very much and are each others support system. It must be frustrating treating people with unreliable and so subjective treatments. But I got tired of that, and I made it clear to him that I will stay in with him as often as he wants, put him to bed, make food with him or for him, clean, etc.
I think a lot of these female doctors are believing their own incorrect hype. All we want is a decent looking girl with a good personality, who will take care of the house and kids, be a kind loving wife, and not talk too much and give us a headache. I've been holding out, mostly contentedly, for a time when we could appreciate each other as unique individuals. People who are trained and work in a field day in and day out deserve respect whether they work in psych or anywhere else. Things are very very difficult at the moment. I wish there was a mother's support network for us all to join and meet up! A lot of advice I get from others is that you need to build up hobbies and activities of your own so that I am not just waiting for him to give attention and have time for me.
If you really feel this way, go ahead and ask, but also ask about the applicable law. In response to the anonymous comment posted April 3, 2011. I can honestly say this isn't worth it. The stresses of my residency with a long-distance relationship got to us, I broke up with him, and I mainly focused on my career for the rest of residency with the odd date here and there. They can't seem to deal with it, and shouldn't have to. I honestly believe i need more support from him. .
We keep getting more and more wedding invitations to our apt and with each one I feel like my dreams float farther and farther away. He also said that emergency medicine is highly competitive. Where were the tears when you were 25? I think the only thing that can possibly be worse is if he was working in a different country. I am married to a doctor for one year now. I know this post is kind of all over the place but I had to get it out. Hey Pamudri, Of course not all female doctors would remain single.
Your generalizations are so off that I initially thought that you were writing a parody piece. Hi, My boyfriend of 3 years now has just finished undergrad and is entering a pre-med program. You are not debunking a myth, you are being a blatant misogynist and bigot. One of my concerns is that we have started talking about starting a family soon and I would be 100% sure if only I knew that he was going to help me out, but when i think of how extremely uncomfortable it feels to even as him to walk the dogs once in a while it scares me to even think about having kids. And don't get hung up on all the lofty doc stuff. I couldn't stop thinking about it all day after reading it.
Sounds like you are going through my same fears and concerns. I just returned from a difficult meeting with my psychotherapist and felt depressed—then I found this amazing blog. We make time for each other every chance we get which sometimes is during the noon hour for lunch. I know that time spent together even when we're both just sleeping is valuable. So I feel a little frightened after reading this blog. He is living with the health effects from working upwards of 120 hrs a week.
I'm a psychologist, but let me answer this. I will, and have said before that is is one of the worst decisions to marry a doctor also. Or at least a less intensive specialty like family medicine. We take care of sick people, we have witnessed the moments that Death has come to take our patients away, and we have comforted those left behind. If I found them attractive, fun to be around and liked them, yes, yes I would. It's definitely not an easy life. Someone once gave me the advice to marry the person you want to be in the trenches with.
This is the perspective some males have. He wants to be a neurosurgeon and we are only in his second year of medical school. It's been tough to always move and find a new job, friends etc. I keep busy with my own activities, but it becomes really hard to have a date night. They spend so much time together.